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Due to their chronic condition, I have many clients who are working with multiple physicians. One doctor for this aspect of their diagnosis, another doctor for something else. Maybe multiple specialists. As well as their regular internist. That’s a lot of appointments. Furthermore, my clients also tell me that it is hard to get all […]

If you’re like me and most of my clients, winter is wearing you down, especially if you live in a cold climate like I do. It’s still winter here. It may pretty much hang around through March. I recently posted an article with some thoughts about winter and the role it plays in our lives. […]

The winter is upon us.  It’s official.  So if you’re in a cold climate like I am, you may be feeling the double whammy of the first blasts of cold weather along with the greatly reduced hours of sunlight.  If you are in a warmer climate, you are at least feeling the impact of darkness […]

Awhile back, when discussing the importance of staying true to your medication and self-care regimen, I was using the word “compliance.” It was the word I was familiar with. But I had never really considered what compliance actually means until one of my readers educated me. Think about what compliance implies — doing what you […]

I spend a lot of time talking with my clients about relationships.  Not only the relationships they are currently involved in, but the relationships they would like to have.  Specifically, people to date, with the goal of finding that one special person.   Inevitably, these conversations turn toward what clients are doing to meet people.  […]

Given that we are dealing with imperfect beings, what if, instead of expecting perfection, you expected imperfection?  What if you started to ask yourself what parts of your life need to be functioning at 100%, and where you might begin to loosen up on your expectations?  Averaging out your expectations to, let’s say, around 80%?  […]

So often, my newly-diagnosed clients tell me they want to get their treatment underway as soon as possible and have it in place or, better yet, have it behind them. They don’t want information, they don’t want to ask questions, they don’t want to have to make decisions. But this is disempowering. Your doctor needs […]

Experience has taught me a lot about why my clients are attracted to troubled people.  I am going to share what I have learned with you.  That’s a big question.  Let me emphasize: I have this discussion with men and with women, as I demonstrated in my examples.  And always the ultimate question: What makes […]

Staying calm can have a major benefit on your overall physical and emotional wellness.  That’s especially important when you’re living with a chronic condition.  My clients tell me that staying calm helps them to be more adherent with their self-care plan, to manage their symptoms, and to feel better day by day.  While stress may […]

Let me be clear about my belief about thinking out loud.  It has been my experience that being able to think out loud in the presence of your partner is absolutely essential to healthy communication in a relationship.  Couples need to be able to communicate openly and freely.  And that means being transparent about what’s […]