Let me be clear about my belief about thinking out loud. It has been my experience that being able to think out loud in the presence of your partner is absolutely essential to healthy communication in a relationship. Couples need to be able to communicate openly and freely. And that means being transparent about what’s going on in your mind.
This doesn’t mean spouting off in a hurtful, critical, unkind tone. Some thoughts are better left to ourselves, especially thoughts that arise out of the emotions of the moment. Thinking out loud is not an excuse to not speak out of love.
However, thinking out loud with your partner can provide the foundation for a productive discussion in which your thoughts and perceptions, and those of your partner, are on the table.
Check out my article on this topic under Chronic Communication Skills in Resources!