Dr. Gary

Have you felt that need for closure eating away at you lately?  Can’t quite let it go until it has all been sliced, diced, and lined up in a neat row?  You’re in good company.  However… while wanting closure is only human, it can also be detrimental to your emotional wellness.  Digging in your heels […]

You have probably heard phrases like “listen to your gut” or “listen to your inner voice.” Therapists say that a lot, or at least I do. But I am not alone. Your intuition is always operating below the surface. And turning into it can help you in making decisions, in judging situations, in understanding people, […]

A lot of us are feeling anxious about COVID-19 reentry. We were anxious about the pandemic, now we’re anxious about getting back to the next chapter of our lives. The uncertainty continues. Take a look at an article I published about how to cope with COVID-19 reentry. Here’s a link: https://justgotdiagnosed.com/resources/feeling-anxious-covid-reentry/

May is National Mental Health Awareness Month. So it is only appropriate, I think, to talk about the importance of paying attention to your mental health. And reaching out for help if you need it. But I am often asked the question “How do I know if I need help?” So I have posted an […]

We often talk about identity these days, from a variety of perspectives. But the focus of my work is chronic and catastrophic conditions, so I think more about identity from that perspective. Living with a medical diagnosis can affect how others view us, as well as how we view ourselves. That includes labeling ourselves as […]

We all need validation.  On some days more than others.  When you hit one of those days, here’s what you can do: Remember that validation starts from within.  Therapists spend a lot of time talking with their clients about validation.  My approach is always to start with helping my client to understand the ways in […]

It seems like the word fear has popped up a lot lately.  The political situation.  The pandemic.  Just two name a couple of the latest reasons to experience fearful thoughts lately. My clients often talk about another reason for fear.  Their medical diagnosis.  I most often hear this from newly-diagnosed clients, who are still processing […]

I am not a big fan of winter. As I get older, I think I get less fond of winter every year. January and February are, to me, the worst months. However, where I live, in New York, it’s pretty cold from November into April. Still, March will offer a glimmer, just a glimmer, of […]

Be aware that mental health diagnoses like depression and anxiety may occur concurrently with chronic conditions and chronic pain.  The word co-morbidity would apply here.  And I can say from my own personal experience as a psychotherapist that many of my clients living with chronic conditions and chronic pain do indeed have a dual diagnosis […]

One of the conversations I have most often with my clients is about situations in which they are not being listened to.  Ignored.  Sidelined.  Treated as if they are invisible.   Feeling left to suffer with their chronic pain alone.  In a word: marginalized. And keep in mind that that the result of being marginalized can leave […]