I can’t help but wonder if we become so focused on the importance of saying no that we end up setting ourselves up to view the holidays with dread instead of anticipation. As if the holidays are a big danger zone we are entering into, with survival depending on digging in our feet and holding […]
Not Sure Why You Are Attracted to Troubled People? Take a Look in the Mirror That’s a big question. Let me emphasize: I have this discussion with men and with women, as I demonstrated in my examples. And always the ultimate question: What makes me so attracted to trouble people? The answer is far from […]
It is only human to have lots of fears around your child’s chronic condition. After all, part of your job as a parent is to be aware of, and actively preventing, the “what ifs.” And chances are, you’ve already experienced some of them, or come close. Fear can keep you motivated to do everything you […]
As a therapist, I frequently talk with my clients about their quality of life. In fact, assisting them in increasing their quality of life is often one of our goals. Now, you may already be asking, that’s a pretty general term so how do you make that an actionable goal. That’s a good question. I […]
Getting your annual checkup? Yes, I am asking this question twice. I will tell you why. I work with a lot of sick people, some of them very sick. And I have had a lot of friends over the years who have been very sick. Some of them regularly met with their healthcare providers when […]
“You need to be more proactive.” Has anyone ever said this to you? Your partner? Your boss? Your doctor? And when they said it, how did you feel? Motivated? Annoyed? Confused? It seems to me that the word “proactive” is thrown around pretty often. Maybe a little too often. So while the need to be […]
As a therapist, I frequently talk with my clients about their quality of life. In fact, assisting them in increasing their quality of life is often one of our goals. As you might agree, quality of life is an especially important concern and, yes, challenge, for individuals and families who are living with a chronic […]
My take on procrastination is that it’s a way of having control in our lives. We don’t like to be told what to do. We don’t want to do things we don’t like to do. And so, we maintain control by deciding when we will get started on an undesired task. Unfortunately, as in Chad’s […]
We all have those days when we just aren’t feeling ourselves. If you are living with a chronic condition, it is only human nature to start to worry about your health. Am I coming down with something? Are my medications working? It is also human nature to worry about your mental health on a bad […]
Changes are coming! So… what’s your first reaction when you read those three words? Let me guess. Oh wow! Enthusiasm? You just can’t wait? Or oh wow! Again? More? Why? Followed by some fear, frustration, disappointment, and lots of anxious thoughts. Maybe all of the above? Humans are wired to keep things as they are, […]