Your middle name isn’t God.

A medical diagnosis, and all the uncertainty around it, can leave you feeling out of control.  Scary decisions to be made.  Treatments with unfamiliar side effects.  Emotions all over the place.  Loved ones trying to micromanage your life, or running for the hills.  And when humans feel out of control, they begin to fear what we all fear the most: helplessness.  But consider this: we are not in control of what happens in our lives.  Life happens as it happens.  Trying to have control over everything is trying to play God, and that’s a lose-lose proposition.  So, unless your middle name is God, can you give yourself a break?  Take a look at what you can control — starting with taking the best possible care of yourself — and stop trying to control the uncontrollable.  Take life one day at a time.  THIS day.  Not tomorrow.  You don’t control that either.  Take a deep breath and relax.  Live in the moment.