Are your friends and family labeling you with your diagnosis and treating you like you are “sick?” Here is what I tell my clients: You are not a diagnosis. Keep focused on the big picture —who you are to yourself and to others, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Remind yourself every day that you are a fascinating, multi-dimensional individual with a past, a present and a future that belongs to you and you alone. And remind all your friends and family members that you are the same person you have always been. Yes, with a few new challenges. But the same you. And let them know how they support you in taking the best possible care of yourself, what you need and what you don’t need. You’re in charge.
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Dr. Gary McClain
Gary McClain, PhD is a recognized expert in understanding the emotional reactions to medical diagnosis.
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Q: I was recently diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and I am really trying to face up to this condition and maintain my independence. But there are days when I know I need help. My family is telling me that I am being stubborn when all I am trying to do is be a Fighter. When is it time to ask for help?
A: Fighters may have a reputation as the ideal role models but they aren’t always good at seeking out support unless someone shows them how much worse things will be if they don’t.
Fighters often view themselves as so in control of their situation that they can handle every...
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