Watch your self-talk.

Human beings spend their waking hours in an ongoing conversation with themselves.  What’s going on with your inner dialogue?  If you are constantly telling yourself how bad things are, and what you can’t do, then you are allowing yourself to be pushed around by the voice of the big bully in your mind.  When you find yourself going negative, using words like “can’t,” “won’t” and “never,” that’s a sign that the bully is in charge.  Turn the negatives, and the “yes, but,” into “yes, and.”  Remind yourself of what you can do.  Review your strengths.  Be open to alternatives.  Expect the unexpected.  And don’t be afraid to tell the bully to shut up.