Ask yourself a tough question: Is dwelling on what other people have “done to me” a way of avoiding taking responsibility for my own life? If there is an upside to holding a grudge, it’s that you can place all of the blame for what’s not going well in your life on others, and not have to work on yourself. But that’s also disempowering, and leaves you stuck. Taking the best possible care of your own health starts with creating a healthy environment. That’s an inside and outside job. Exercising forgiveness is a great way to replace inner chaos and stress with peace and tranquility.
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Q: I was recently diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and I am really trying to face up to this condition and maintain my independence. But there are days when I know I need help. My family is telling me that I am being stubborn when all I am trying to do is be a Fighter. When is it time to ask for help?
A: Fighters may have a reputation as the ideal role models but they aren’t always good at seeking out support unless someone shows them how much worse things will be if they don’t.
Fighters often view themselves as so in control of their situation that they can handle every...
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