One of the lessons that we learn from illness is that life is always changing. Yet, humans seem to be hard-wired to avoid change. But because life keeps moving, nothing stays the same forever. In other words, we aren’t in control of everything that occurs in our lives, even if we think we should be. Fighting change is like fighting against yourself, and your own potential for growth. So give up the battle and go with the flow. Focus on what you do have control over. Beginning with taking the best possible care of yourself and the people you love.
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Q: I was recently diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and I am really trying to face up to this condition and maintain my independence. But there are days when I know I need help. My family is telling me that I am being stubborn when all I am trying to do is be a Fighter. When is it time to ask for help?
A: Fighters may have a reputation as the ideal role models but they aren’t always good at seeking out support unless someone shows them how much worse things will be if they don’t.
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Great message and website update! I think so much emphasis is placed on tradition and things NOT changing that we don’t teach children that life is all about change and we should embrace changes instead of fighting them.
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Yvette! It is so great tro be in touch with you again. I agree, let’s help kids learn to welcome change. Thanks for checking in!