Accept that you are not in control. Life happens. And most of it happens regardless of our hopes and wishes. So talk to yourself. Gently but firmly say: “You can do a lot to take care of yourself. But you can’t control the outcome. And you can’t control what might come up along the way to throw you off course.” In other words, give up the battle before it starts. You’ll have a whole lot more energy left for much more productive thoughts and actions.